hey, i need some advice

here is my problem... my boyfriend has all the sudden wanted me to write a fic of what I wanted ( fantasies) and I am not comfortable with writing it ( not the way he wants it written. . it is starting to interfer with my writing in general. I have half of a Christain Kane fic written but everytime he sees me he asked where is his fic. it is very nerve wrecking....

I wrote a chapter and now he wants another .... I want to write my way not all of this porn crap he wants. we have been together for almost 14 years and I have been writing for at least 3 years . what can I tell him without hurting his feelings ???? I do love him ( though somedays I have to ask myself sereval times why?) I just want to freedom to write like I write.... not this "no this is not juicy enough.... no this is not detail enough"

Honey my response would be that you tell him it is making you uncomfortable and that you need to be left with the freedom you feel with writing. Tell him if he thinks that it's easy then why doesn't he try it? It will show him that it isn't as easy as he seems to think it is - writing isn't supposed to be about what you want, it's about you wanting to tell a story - end of story and if he can't accept that then you need to get more firm with him. Hope that helps xoxox

I have told him he wants me to write out what I would want in a fantasy... well I have told him numberous of times he does not seem to understand what I went thru with my ex husband and his ' open relationship ' that he keeps hounding me ... ! but anyway he saw me writing on my Christian Kane fic and said" why can't you just write like that ?"
I just told him it is easier to write about a star that you don't know than someone you do know...
also girlie you are in chapter 2 of the same story... needed to pair Sam up with... lol

tjangel wrote:

here is my problem... my boyfriend has all the sudden wanted me to write a fic of what I wanted ( fantasies) and I am not comfortable with writing it ( not the way he wants it written. . it is starting to interfer with my writing in general. I have half of a Christain Kane fic written but everytime he sees me he asked where is his fic. it is very nerve wrecking....

I wrote a chapter and now he wants another .... I want to write my way not all of this porn crap he wants. we have been together for almost 14 years and I have been writing for at least 3 years . what can I tell him without hurting his feelings ???? I do love him ( though somedays I have to ask myself sereval times why?) I just want to freedom to write like I write.... not this "no this is not juicy enough.... no this is not detail enough"

Why doesn't he write his own fic, if he doesn't like the way you write? He needs to understand it's no fun to be pressured into doing something that you're not comfortable with--even if it is a passion of yours.

that is what I told him and he tells me ' you are the writer in the family and it is your fantasy"
I told him no last night I will write it when I am damn good and ready too I can not and will not be pressured . he saw what my ex did to me when he forced me in to a open relationship . then I replied I live my fatnasies in my stories I write to read those!